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Principles of Influence !!

August 23, 2006 03:43 AM 1
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Principles of Influence !!

Dear Friends,

Life is all about "influence" and "influencing".

Environment influences us, we keep influencing each other in day-to-day business. Great people cast their influence through good work or good words.

In this context, here is an article," 7 Principles of Influence - How to Win People's Cooperation " . It can also be seen at the link, given at the end of the article.

Hope you all will enjoy reading it.

Regards,

Lucy Doss

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Influence is the art of winning people's cooperation when you do not have, or do not want to use, the authority to make them do what you want them to do. It involves shaping the way people feel and think.
"Power lasts ten years. Influence not more than a hundred."
-Korean Proverb

1.Make people feel understood.
Spend less time trying to make people understand what you want, and more time making them feel understood. In an ideal world people might make decisions, commitments, and judgments based on logic and sound reasoning. But in this world people act in response to their preferences, feelings, and social influences they're not even aware of. If they trust you and feel that you care about them, they are much more likely to cooperate with you.


2.Find common ground.
Show people how their needs, values, and dreams mesh with yours. To do so, you have to understand their values and concerns. See things from their point of view. Be sympathetic with their feelings. Then show them how cooperating with you can help them achieve what they want.


3.Listen.
Listening is the best way to make people feel understood and, at the same time, to find common ground. Ask open-ended questions, the kind that invite people's careful consideration and honesty. Try to understand what people mean, without getting hung up on the literal meaning of their words. And acknowledge their thoughts and feelings (which isn't the same thing as agreeing with them).


The Rest of the article can be read at http://www.wittcom.com/principles_of_influence.htm