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Chrm Message From: amarjeet Total Posts: 40 Join Date: 25/08/2006
Rank: Executive Post Date: 01/09/2006 02:28:53 Points: 200 Location: United States

People often wonder why some people have such great friends & manage to keep them ?

If you manage to apply the following in your life, the same could work for you :

In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem.

One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, "Do you know what I just heard about your friend?

"Hold on a minute, " Socrates replied. "Before telling me anything I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test."

"Triple Filter Test?"

"That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say.

That's why I call it the triple filter test. The first filter is Truth.

Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"

"No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..."

"All right," said Socrates.

"So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?"

"No, on the contrary..."

"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, but you're not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter left: the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really.

"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?"

This is why Socrates was a great philosopher & held in such high esteem.

If we are able to protect our friends and those we love in this manner, we cannot be influenced by Gossip Mongers in having bad notions about them.

Regards,

Amarjeet


Chrm Message From: thiagaraju Total Posts: 1 Join Date: 25/08/2006  
Rank: Beginner Post Date: 03/01/2009 14:57:57 Points: 5 Location: United States
Triple test is interesting. How far we are using it .gossip has its own ill effects. but gossip is one of the communication channels, so let informations pass through gossip.but let us use it or otherwise depending on the matter and circumstance.
Chrm Message From: Basivireddy Total Posts: 5 Join Date: 25/08/2006  
Rank: Beginner Post Date: 11/11/2009 06:09:19 Points: 25 Location: United States

Hi,

Gossips at the work place will not be useful neither employee nor employer. It is just passing the time, wasting the company business hours and spoiling the working environment.

And the story of Socrates is very nice, but now a days who is having that much time of giving the tests to the gossipers whether he is telling truth, good or bad.

Better to not encourage the gossipers in our personal and professional life.

Basivi....  

Chrm Message From: sheetalan Total Posts: 3 Join Date: 25/08/2006  
Rank: Beginner Post Date: 13/11/2009 06:29:31 Points: 15 Location: United States
Gossiper only waste his/her own time and others time too, and do not solve any problems.
Chrm Message From: akshesh karnik Total Posts: 8 Join Date: 25/08/2006  
Rank: Beginner Post Date: 27/05/2010 06:56:00 Points: 40 Location: United States

gossipers in the organization are just wasting the valuable time, but what if they are vary usefull employees on the contarary???????? how to maintain professionalism in the organization? if such useful employees are gossipers?  Can any one suggest some action regarding it? 

 
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