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Chrm Message From: nicole_j Total Posts: 35 Join Date: 25/08/2006
Rank: Executive Post Date: 14/12/2006 01:04:37 Points: 175 Location: United States

Teenagers need to bundle up their “feelings” and throw them into the ocean - Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

“Teenage” years are the most confusing years. You are no more a kid who can be pacified with toys and sweets, but you’ve also not matured enough in emotional terms. A new world has just opened up in front of you and it’s such a difficult time. On the one hand, there are big highs! On the other hand, there are so many lows including loneliness. A child doesn’t feel lonely, but a teenager does. Not only that, there are also so many hormonal changes taking place in the body of a teenager. He/she is becoming familiar with his her own body, mind, emotions, urges and difficulties. Suddenly teenagers begin to feel that nobody understands them because what parents say from their standpoint as parents – good or bad – doesn’t appeal to them. Long term plans don’t exist. Teenagers want immediate solutions, immediate gratification, immediate, immediate. Everything should happen now! Instantly! Teenagers feel that adults do not understand them. And on the other hand, they cannot connect with small kids either. They have reached a stage where they find all the toys , all the simple games that they have
outgrown, meaningless.

During these complicated years teenagers need to have hope. They need to develop an understanding about life; what they want to do, how to cope with their wants. There is an old saying in Sanskrit: “When your son or daughter turns sixteen, behave with them like a
friend.’ Don’t be their teachers, don’t tell them what to do or what not to do. Just share their difficulties. If you relate to them as a friend and not as a parent, they will open up to you.

Usually teenagers open up to their friends much more than to their parents; it’s a common phenomenon. This also goes for teachers. A teacher should also be a friend- should behave like a friend and talk as a friend. Then the gap gets bridged. Once the gap is bridged, love flows, communication happens. And once communication happens, virtually all the problems are solved. The biggest problem is lack of communication.

Deal With Emotions

How to deal with our emotions?
Although we’ve grown older - beyond ‘teenage’ we more often fail to grow beyond ‘teenage’ mentally. You know, our body grows in a particular sequence. In the first seven years, the physical body grows, but the intellect does not grow, then up to fourteen years the intellect grows. The period between 14-21 years is for emotional maturity. So the general belief is that you become physically mature, then intellectually mature and finally you become emotionally mature.

However many do not grow to that maturity at all. Lack of emotional maturity is always worrying about your emotions – feeling though you are a victim of your own emotions: “Oh! I feel like this! I feel like that! What to do?” What will you do? Who cares about your feelings? Why do you worry so much about your feelings? Your feeling keep changing. Sometimes you feel bad; but the bad feeling doesn’t stay with you forever. It changes and you start feeling good once again; but even that good feeling does not stay forever. Nobody can feel bad or good ALL the time; the good and bad feelings come like waves. You can’t stop a wave that has already risen; nor can you make a wave rise just like that. Just as waves come and go. Waves of different emotion come. And they disappear. But we make it such a big issue: “Oh, I feel good! Oh, I feel bad! I feel this way I feel that way, nobody cares for me…” all these complaints keep bombarding our minds. This emotional garbage is so useless; and it is also a sign of emotional immaturity.

Emotional maturity, intellectual maturity, physical maturity. You need all these “maturities” to be a complete personality. Are you sharp? Are you interested in learning and growth? It yes, you have matured intellectually, do not let emotional immaturity cloud your intellect. By the age of 21, you are supposed to be emotionally and physically strong and intellectually sharp. Hence, you acquire the right to vote, because you are supposed to be mature – an adult. But this seldom happens.

But what is the big deal about your feelings? I tell you, bundle them up and throw them into the ocean!

Once you rid your ‘feelings’ you can be happy, in good spirits. Just examine why your spirits go down? More likely than not because somebody said something stupid to you. And why did they say a stupid thing? Because they had some garbage they needed to throw out; and you were they ready, to catch it.

And once you have caught it, you hold on to it so passionately!
Come on!
Wake up!
Don’t let your smile be snatched away by anybody!

In this world, everything cannot be perfect all the time. Even the best, the greatest of actions performed with the noblest of intentions, will have some imperfections. It is but natural. Unfortunately, the tendency of our mind is to grab the imperfection and hold on to it. And in the process, we end up making our moods, our minds imperfect. Our souls reel with this nonsense.

It is imperative to get out of these cycles, and to become strong and courageous within. And that which gives you that strength, that courage, that smile and that helps you to become unconditionally happy and loving is what is called spirituality.


Nicole Jayson

Chrm Message From: dsweetdesire Total Posts: 1 Join Date: 25/08/2006  
Rank: Beginner Post Date: 10/02/2010 20:50:59 Points: 5 Location: United States
very profound thoughts.. this one really made me ponder over.

thnks for sharing it over here..

Chrm Message From: param.mpower Total Posts: 3 Join Date: 25/08/2006  
Rank: Beginner Post Date: 10/05/2010 01:35:11 Points: 15 Location: United States
Yes what you say is correct
Chrm Message From: Achu Total Posts: 12 Join Date: 25/08/2006  
Rank: Executive Post Date: 11/05/2010 17:54:44 Points: 60 Location: United States
Thanks for sharing this wonderful article. I came to know why teenagers including myself constantly behave in certain ways and the causes behind it. I also got to know how to control it.  Attaining all the 3 maturities brings a personality in person.  I would share this piece of information with all my friends in best possible ways.

Thanks again.
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