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Together at work

Last post June 20, 2006 06:32 AM by madure. 1 repiles.

June 20, 2006 04:47 AM 1
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Together at work

Together at work

Till recently Vishal Saxena loved his work. But nowadays he hates getting out of the bed. He dreads that he will be seeing the same faces at work, the smirks and the comments behind his back. He wonders why is this happening to him? That too, when he is one of the better performers in his division. But the people around him do not seem to like him. Vishal (name changed) is almost ready to quit.

But this is not the first time. He had similar problems in all his earlier jobs. Obviously quitting has not changed much. In other words, only the ability to perform does not matter. Even your attitude towards your colleagues makes a difference.

Even if you are not in jobs like marketing and PR, you still have to deal with people all the time. And it is of utmost importance then to share a good working relationship with your colleagues. Most companies have parties and outings where they insist that all the employees should go.

A team consists of people with different temperaments and skills. To make a team work, every team member has to align his/her goals to the team's goals and maintain good relationship with their colleagues.

For a good office relations means:

• Having mutual respect for one another
• Listening to their views, problems etc.
• Speaking the truth to one another
• Assisting one another
• Giving up one's selfish motives in order to achieve the organisational goals

A few tips to be an amicable colleague at office:

Take time: Most times when you enter a company, there will be people telling you to stay away from someone. But do not be get swayed by it.

Form your own judgement about one and all and behave accordingly.

Listen: Listen carefully and focus on the speaker's message to avoid misunderstandings. When the speaker is finished, state your understanding to ensure there is no misinterpretation.

Resolve conflicts early: Accept that everyone is not the same. When frictions happen, do not let it fester. Be direct, but courteous. Regardless of the situation, try not to lash out or be rude or get personal.

Set boundaries: Don't get too personal too soon. Developing friendships with co-workers is natural but it is important to draw a line. Focus on your priorities at work, and try to limit personal discussions to lunch breaks or after work. You never know when they may use something against you. 

"Be personal, it is human. But not too personal," Adds he, "Use your judgement and see your chemistry and comfort level with the other person then decide what and how much to reveal to your colleagues."

Be professional: If you get that promotion, don't feel bad about isolating from the common crowd. You have moved ahead of the brat pack and need not be apologetic about it. Neither do you have to feel and behave like a superior.

Watch your words: Just as you are wary of being betrayed by your office pal, you shouldn't betray official confidences. When pressed for sensitive information, give non-committal remarks and never give cause for others to misquote you. Gossip is fine but restrain yourself from passing any personal comments.

Left behind: If someone else gets the promotion, discard your resentments and green eyes. You need to butter up the right side of your toast. Give your new superior credit and co-operate with her / him to work the field and work harder.

Just be yourself and make the best of your working life.

Prashant Iyer
Take Care

people will forget what you said ...
people will forget what you did ...
but people will never forget how you made them feel ...
June 20, 2006 06:322
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Re: Together at work

Most of these end up ultimately with attitudes. Peter Drucker once rightly said that "Good manners" is the lubricating oil in a company. This is what Charles Swindoll had tosay about attitudes:

"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude to me is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than success, than what other people think, say or do. It is more important than appearance, gift, or skill. It will make or break a company...a church...a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... The only thing we can do is play on the string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our attitudes."