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Chrm Message From: dadouch Total Posts: 32 Join Date: 04/12/2008
Rank: Executive Post Date: 27/01/2009 10:55:46 Points: 160 Location: India

hello friends,

one of very close friend has faced this problem in his company.

He had a clashes with his Manager who have recently joined in the company. all his colleges were also facing problem with the Manager but no one was making daring to speak against him. every one use to make complaint against him with my friend. this manager is very dominating by nature and use very bad language when he use to talk with his fellow colleges.

few days before my friend had big quarrel with his manager. that time manager insulted him before all the staff of the company. so my friend made compliant against the manager to his GM. GM called a meeting of his all department and asked what is wrong. that time my friend was shocked when all his colleges who use to make complaint against him were taking ageist my friend. he was really depressed after the meeting. same time he also got new job in another company. he has given the resignation also. but he is very depressed. i tried my best to council him.

can any one throw light on theses types of events in the company?

what do u think was my friend right or wrong? what should i advise him?


Chrm Message From: kris Total Posts: 22 Join Date: 04/12/2008  
Rank: Executive Post Date: 27/01/2009 10:58:10 Points: 110 Location: India

Hi dadouch,

This is a story in many organisation.General tendancy is people only speak at the back & the person who feel & proceed a step, he become the victim ..

What I feel we can not change the boss / collegues , we can change only our self , in the process we can be an example & motivate others to change also . The easiest way is to resign & change job , which is a best temporary solution . In the process one can also learn from the mistake , find a correct attitude & able to make a cordial boss .
Just to cultivate a right attitude you may like to read

"""Your Attitude Makes a Difference in Your Relationships with People.Many factors come into play when working with people, but what makes or breaks interpersonal skills is a person's attitude. In the book, Winning with People, I describe twenty-five people principles that anyone can use to become better at building relationships and working with others. Many of those principles are attitude-based. Here are some examples:

The Lens Principle: Who we are determines how we see others. Our perception of others depends more on our attitude than it does their characteristics. If we are positive, we see them as positive.

The Pain Principle: Hurting people hurt people and are easily hurt by them. Our negative experiences and emotional baggage color our perception of others' actions. Normal interactions can cause us pain even when another person did nothing to inflict pain.

The Elevator Principle: We can lift people up or take them down in our relationships. People possess a mindset of either lifting or limiting others.

The Learning Principle: Each person we meet has the potential to teach us something. People in possession of a teachable attitude can learn from everyone they meet. On the contrary, someone who assumes others have nothing to offer will walk away from relationships empty-handed ""By Dr John C Maxwel

Warm Regards,


Chrm Message From: negiS Total Posts: 16 Join Date: 04/12/2008  
Rank: Executive Post Date: 27/01/2009 11:00:31 Points: 80 Location: India

I agree with kris. It's not about right or wrong.. because it's an office politics.. Sometimes we can't relly on our friends in the office, because they're also facing the same stressful condition or maybe more than us.. What you can suggest to your friends is just let it go coz it's already finished.. your friend has to face new life in the new office... Don't let this case made your friend demotivated to work.. just let this case becomes his experience ...

There's always a better future if we keep positive thinking...

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