Last post September 21, 2010 04:36 AM by shweta_puri. 1 repiles.
the best way to control anger is being aware about its presence and it vanishes instantly.
infact the best ways to control any kind of emotions or activity is being utterly aware about it,being conscious and be a silent observer to it.
Try this...whenever u see anger arousing...simply watch it and try to catch the source and in the mean time can start with the countdown and rest assured.
hope this proves beneficial for every one.
I agree with Preity. Its also observed that one tends to say things which can hurt the opposite person. An angry person many also say things which he would never mean to say.
I think that when one is angry He/She must keep quiet and try to avoid the conversation as he or she may get violent.
One must avoid taking any decisions or coming to any conclusions.I hope this helps others.
If you find that your angry outbursts are negatively affecting your relationships with family, friends, co-workers and even complete strangers, it's probably time to change the way you express your anger. Here are some tips to get your anger under control : Take a "time out." Count to 10 before reacting or leave the situation altogether. Do something physically exerting. Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets, For example. Find ways to calm and soothe yourself. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "take it easy." You can also listen to music, paint, journal or do yoga. Express your anger as soon as possible so that you aren't left stewing. If you can't express your anger in a controlled manner to the person who angered you, try talking to a family member, friend, counselor or another trusted person. Think carefully before you say anything so that you don't end up saying something you'll regret. Work with the person who angered you to identify solutions to the situation. Use "I" statements when describing the problem to avoid criticizing or placing blame. For instance, say "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework." To do otherwise will likely upset the other person and escalate tensions. Don't hold a grudge. Forgive the other person. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want. Use humor to defuse your anger, such as imagining yourself or the other person in silly situations. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's just another form of unhealthy _expression.
Keep an anger log to identify the kinds of situations that set you off and to monitor your reactions. You can practice many of these strategies on your own. But if your anger seems out of control, is hurting your relationships or has escalated into violence, you may benefit from seeing a psychotherapist or an anger management professional. Role playing in controlled situations, such as anger management classes, can help you practice your techniques.
Anger is the result of intolerence.
Tolerate all situations of life as it comes.