Dear Prashant & Colleagues,

It is not possible for me to empathize with the case. I'm not saying your presentation was not sufficient enough, but still it is difficult to get things in the right perspective for me to offer my points of view.

I was looking at this case with a "possible" solutions perspective, and so I come up with this.

I trust you and all those who read this can appreciate the thinking that has gone into it. I'll be pleased to hear back, from you or any of the others who wish to contribute to help smoothen the feelings of the "sufferer." My best wishes to your friend, and here goes what I've in mind...

What to do When You Really, Really Hate your Job or made to hate your Job – feel victimized due to politics or for any other reason… Life has to go on.

Advise your good friend as follows :

Begin focusing on what you want instead of how much you want to escape. When you find yourself sharing the latest horror story, stop in mid-sentence and say, "What I want to have is..."

Create an image that describes you in your job. Are you on a riverbank with no way to get to the other side? Lost in a jungle? Poking through a thorny hedge? When you get comfortable with the image, begin visualizing a change in the obstacle. Imagine building a bridge across the river or finding a path in the forest. Don't force the image or the change. When you're ready it will come.

Think of developing skills, not serving time. Take every course that's offered and focus on skills that can lay a foundation for your own business or next job. Can you learn some new saleable skills ?

Focus on satisfactory, not superior performance. Use the time difference to build your new life. People often say, "I can't do anything -- I work ten hours a day!"

If you are firing yourself or expecting to be fired, your job is finding a new job. Be ethical: you owe your company the minimum you need to earn your salary." But don't be surprised if you start to accomplish more than ever and find yourself getting promoted.

What conflict are you escaping?
Dishonesty?
Corporate greed?
Hypocrisy?

Allow yourself to wonder if these qualities are mirrored in your own life -- or even in your mind.

If everyone around you seems dishonest, are you being dishonest with yourself? With others? After you resolve your own conflict, you may find the workplace has changed or you have been catapulted into a new, more satisfying life.

Put on your shield and armor when you enter your workplace. Everyone should learn how to create a psychic shield. Imagine that you are surrounded by an outer shell that is made of a solid material -- so strong that nothing can get through to hurt you. Some people prefer to imagine a protective golden light, but I think the solid shield is stronger. Take two or three minutes to put on your shield, every day, before you enter the workplace.

Give yourself a gift every day -- a splurge of time or sensual taste buds. Read a book, talk to a friend, eat your favorite food. Don't deaden your senses or spend big bucks at the mall. Think simple. Find at least one thing in your life to appreciate: the coziness of your family, softness of your pet cat's fur, the summer sky, the spontaneous hug from a friend.

Appreciate as much as possible about your job: the money, the view from the window, the new computer, friendly conversations with the fellow p[professionals around the world. Savor the experience. Appreciation is the engine that attracts good things into your life.

Tune in to your intuition before deciding what to do next. Meditate and listen to the world around you. The saying "frying pan into the fire" is real. If your goals and desires do not come from a secure place within yourself, you will find yourself paying undue attention to wet blankets ("If you quit you'll never get another job") and false friends ("Just quit! Move to another city! You won't starve!"). Sometimes the same "advisor" proposes both ideas in the same week. A good coach or counselor will give you confidence in your own intuition, not impose their views of what you should do now.

Write this down somewhere:
After you've left -- and you will -- all that time will seem to have gone in the blink of an eye. You will have trouble remembering what bothered you so much. The rest of your life will still be ahead of you.

Regards,

Tesmian

Dear friends,

First of all I am really surprised that an HR person who has put in more than 13 years of experience is not open enough to talk to people on something which would help him in his professional scenario.

The first quality of a true professional is that he / she should always think there is something more to learn everyday. It is not that somebody who is the VP (HR) cannot learn from a new Management Trainee. I will speak about my case. Having put in 10 years of experience in HR, IR and SAP HR I still feel good to see young guys and girls with less than 1 year experience in HR contributing much much more than what I was doing when I was a fresher. So whole approach has changed and people should always be open to talk to fellow professionals on any help required in this regard.

Coming back the main focus of the subject, with the change which every industry in undergoing, it is mandatory for people to take up higher responsibilities. Gone those olden days where we had dozens of people in Personnel Departments which is getting reduced to 2-3 in a big setup. Also, many companies have clubbed HR and TQM under one umbrella where both functions needs to work very closely with people and both are related to change management.

My word of suggestion would be that your friend should be very happy doing so many things which will be tremendous value addition to him and to the organization which he is part of. After 2-3 years he will become an excellent resource with tremendous exposure to so many things.

I request the others also to give in their views and especially comment on what I have said above.

Thanks and regards,

Michael

Hi,

I understand that it must be difficult & hectic to handle all responsibilities together.However being at VP HR position I am sure he will be able to find solution himself for his situation.

Also being at VP HR position he should be more involved in to thinking & planning phase than in implementation.Tell the mgmnt that yopu need people to implement.They can be fresh pass outs ot trainess.......................

I am sure you will make your way.............

WHERE THERE IS WILL THAERE IS A WAY

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